From war movies, to kid’s novels, to real life, friends are a necessity which can propel us to great heights we could never reach alone, or hold us back from our ambitions. I’m sure all of you have seen a war movie or two in your time. Always, many of the survivors would not be survivors if their mates hadn’t helped them out. Even in Harry Potter, a series of kid’s novels, the main character manages to conquer evil much more powerful than him, all because of the help friends gave him. Despite being aware of the necessity for friends, it is often taken for granted the amount of influence friends have on our lives.

One of the keys to success in business is the ability to make and maintain contacts. But what is their secret? Nobody likes to be used purely because of their position, or what they can offer for friends. In this, it emerges that the key is being genuine, and not an opportunist looking to use and then dump people purely for their own benefit. Granted, socializing does not come easy for some people and even though they are genuine they come across simply as a manipulator. Not to worry, where there is a will there’s a way.

The main sticking point for people who come across as manipulators, is they ask for favors too soon after meeting soon-to-be friends. Reason being, the relationship has not been well developed; instead, they are being asked to do a favor before enough comfort and rapport has been built. The way to avoid this happening, and ensure everyone knows you are genuine, is to build friendships, long before any favors are asked. And of course don’t be shocked if they ask for a favor in return later down the track. After all, everyone needs a helping hand once in a while – no matter how rich, old or smart they are!

Finally, make sure to treasure the friendships you have and don’t let them die. A visit even once a month will make sure the friendship lives on.